Dancing with Dragonflies
In full transparency, I don’t work with many shaman practices – I tend to lean toward the Celtic. However, I find spirit animals intriguing. Especially, when one particular animal keeps popping up over and over again.
It’s like that handful of years where I constantly caught 10:04 on every clock, almost daily. It was eerie but also had me asking, “What is the universe trying to tell me?”
Earlier this month, it was dragonflies that wanted to talk to me. Not only was I seeing them, but my daughter mentioned she kept seeing them, and I saw people posting about what a heavy dragonfly season it was. Enough sightings and mentions went by that I could no longer ignore the fact that the dragonfly was trying to get my attention.
But, what was the Universe trying to tell me?
Each of the spirit animals bring various energies with them. So, this usually means a deciphering process. With dragonflies, specifically, seeing them could mean any of these things:
- Being more adaptable
- Finding your joy
- Lightness of being
- Emotional deep dives
- Emotional flexibility
- Looking out for deception
- Connecting with nature (or the fey)
- Showing your true colors
- Engaging with wonder
- Rising above your current circumstances
Japan honors the dragonfly because it represents joy and rebirth. Some Native American tribes associated these flying wonders with the departure of souls from this world. The Mayans worshipped a dragonfly goddess, who represented creativity and magic. The Celts believed the dragonfly was a connection to true dragons and that they guarded and protected locations sacred to the dragon (my personal favorite).
I don’t know about you, but that’s a lot of possibilities. So, I had to break it down for myself.
Change & Transformation
I know I’ve never lived through a year in my life that was so full of change and transformation as 2020. I struggle daily with deciphering the truth from the misinformation, navigating relationships with tact (when I really just want to rail at the stupidity of the world), making some of the toughest parenting decisions I’ve ever been faced with, and trying to figure out how to survive this year. So, yes, I think change and transformation (and learning to become more adaptable) are certainly things I’m struggling with right now.
Finding Joy and Lightness
At the same time, this year I’m a contributing author in two separate anthologies being published. In Ready to Fly, Volume 3 my story is all about the importance of remembering to play as an adult to help heal from trauma in childhood. In The STEW: Smart Talk Exceptional Women, I write about the power of owning what makes you weird and embracing the quirky things about yourself because that’s what makes you interesting and what will draw the right people to you. In both of these chapters, I’m not only embracing what brings me joy and connects me to myself – I’m encouraging others to do the same.
Man, I feel beat up by the amount of restraint I’ve been holding due to the raging fire of emotions I have about a variety of topics right now. I’ve been told my ‘passion’ in a discussion can be intimidating and I’m trying to not damage my current relationships with my burning desire to do what it takes to make the world a better place for all of its creatures. As a young adult, my dad used to call me ‘Rebel Just Because’ for justified reasons. My idealism didn’t dull as I grew older, if anything it dug in deep and became rooted into the earth. Just because something is difficult or feels impossible, doesn’t mean it’s not worth pursuing. However, my conversations these days are rough and I’ve been creating this invisible container to hold my fury so that I don’t lash out and hurt people with my ‘passion.’ It’s requiring me to flex emotional muscles that I never cared to exercise before. Why? Because I believe in people first. Always.
A Departing Soul
Up until this year, I had been blessed in not having had to permanently say goodbye to someone I loved. However, in February – I lost my first loved one. Someone who had been my best friend (for a time) and had helped me get through a tough period of my life. One morning I woke up to a text message that I thought was a joke, only to find out he was really, truly gone. I see him in many places – one of the ways grief keeps popping up to get you when you least expect it – and the dragonflies feel like one way he is lingering to let me know he cared, he did the best he could, and that he’s watching over me even now.
The moral of my dragonfly story? Life is complicated and complex. The truth is complicated and complex. And even my spirit animal message this summer was nuanced; carrying threads of my story woven together, and reminders of who I am and why I’m here, with the reminder that my pain (and my joy) is both seen and acknowledged.
Thank you, dragonfly, for reminding me of the process of life. For forcing me to practice my critical thinking skills, to dig deep for the message behind the symbol, and for honoring me and my own threads of complexity. May our dance this summer keep me on my toes and remind me that nothing is merely black or white – and that the details and the people are what truly matter.
Written by Nikki Milton, Marketing Manager of Discover Your Spiritual Gifts
Nikki is the owner of Marvel Marketing Squad and the Marketing Manager at the center. She manages the center's social media, marketing, and newsletter. She works at the center on Monday and Fridays. Come by and allow us to provide you with a tour of the center.