The Holiday Survival Kit
The holidays are tough for many people. It can be a reminder of people, places and/or things that we no longer have in our lives. During this time of the year, we have to make sure that we are loving ourselves and providing ourselves with what we need to enjoy the holidays.
If you are alone for the holidays, I would recommend being open to invitations from others to share the holiday with them. I realize that you may not want to intrude on their holiday traditions, but there are people out there that love to be able to host holiday gatherings for others and you could be blessing them with your presence. Be open to the traditions that others may have in their family. I love having lots of people around during the holidays and we like to invite our friends and family to join us during the holidays. Now, we have a house full of grandchildren. The individual has to understand that things can be a little loud and rowdy with the little ones, but our invitation is sincere and we hope our loved ones will accept.
OUR LOVED ONES
The holidays can be difficult for individuals that have experienced a lost loved one in the last couple of years. I always recommend creating a new tradition that allows you to connect with them in a special way for the holidays. You can choose to serve one of their favorite dishes OR you can play some of their favorite music during the holiday. Your loved ones are still around, and they are celebrating the holidays with you. I know that this does not make up for their physical absence but take a moment and let them know that you love them. They do not want you to stop living, celebrating, or seeking happiness.
Some individuals will choose to have a non-traditional holiday in order to create new memories for the holidays. They may choose to spend their holidays in Las Vegas or Orlando. These tourist locations are designed to lift your spirits and take you out of reality for a period of time. Make sure that these choices are not based on you trying to avoid your emotions and to escape for your own personal truth. Sometimes, it is a welcome change to try something different.
For some individuals, this holiday will be their first time creating something together. Take some time to really talk about your individual traditions and what you have really enjoyed during the holidays. This is the perfect time to share your holiday traditions with each other and to create some new ones that are perfect for you.
This can also be important if you have started a family and this is your first holiday for you and a new baby. What beliefs do each of you hold around the holidays? Do you celebrate on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day? Will you celebrate with Santa Claus? This is the perfect time to discuss how you will celebrate the holidays going forward with the children.
I believe all of us have that family member that can make everyone miserable during the holidays. It may be time to be honest with yourself. Do you really need to expose yourself to the misery that they create OR is it time to find a new way to celebrate the holidays? Sometimes, we will make a choice not to participate in a family event or holiday for our own self-care. It is perfectly okay to make that decision. Life is really too short to subject ourselves to such experiences. I am giving you permission to make the best decision for you this year.
I want to offer some other quick tips on surviving the holidays this season:
- Allow yourself to choose what is best for you!
- If you must spend time in a difficult situation, limit your time. Let your family and/or friends know that you can only stay for a short period of time.
- Spend more time watching your favorite holiday movies and listening to your favorite holiday songs.
- Gifts should come from the heart and they should not overwhelm you or your finances. We allow the children in our family to purchase their gifts from the Dollar Store or we encourage them to make something. These are the most precious gifts that we receive.
- Take time for self-care during the holidays. Sit in a space of quiet and relaxation with a cup of cocoa. Take a moment to take in the lights of the tree and see the magic it holds. Don’t over schedule yourself or set your expectations too high during the holiday season.
- Dedicate some of your time and finances to giving to others. There are so many individuals that really struggle this time of the year. Find ways to give this season.
- Be a child. Dance, sing and play. Allow that inner child to be playful and happy during this joyous time of year.
Happy Holidays everyone! May you be blessed beyond your dreams and imagination.
Written by Vialet Rayne, Magical Creator of Discover Your Spiritual Gifts
Vialet has been on a healing path her whole life. She has been called a spiritual guardian that is strongly connected and highly intuitive. A teacher, coach, healer, and spiritual leader that dreams of a peaceful and harmonious world.
Her mission is to provide individuals with the tools and resources to discover their own healing powers within themselves so they may empower their own lives. Vialet's spiritual journey has provided her with everyday life rituals, experiences, and spiritual wisdom that allow her to overcome difficult situations and to create a life that she has always dreamed of.
Vialet wants everyone to discover their spiritual gifts in the tools and rituals that will improve their lives and the lives of their families. Find out more about her here.
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