Our community at Discover Your Spiritual Gifts has experienced loss with the temporary closing of our retail store and center. The maintenance crew entered our center on Monday, December 23rd to a concern of water coming through the ceiling below us into the brand-new space that had been built out. The hot water was 4-6 inches deep in our center. The water had run through all the rooms and the flooring was buckling up throughout the center.
The community pulled together and we were able to pack and move everything within six hours. I am still not sure how we accomplished this task. I do know that we sent out a call for help and people came to our rescue. Our center is truly blessed to have such a loving and supportive community. I believe that all of us are experiencing grief and loss. We miss our customers, we miss our visitors, we miss our internal connection with staff, readers, and other practitioners. We are missing the people, the space, and the energy of the center. I know that my heart has been breaking from the loss.
There are five stages of grief: (1) Denial and isolation, (2) Anger, (3) Bargaining, (4) Depression and (5) Acceptance. When we are experiencing grief and loss, we do not go through these changes in order. We tend to bounce around them and everyone moves through the stages differently.
Denial and Isolation
This is typically the first reaction to loss. We tend to deny that this is truly happening. It is normal to rationalize the situation or to have this overwhelming flow of emotions.
Denial is a common defense mechanism. It will assist us in buffering the actual shock of the situation. For most individuals, this stage of the process is a temporary response and is the first wave of emotion.
As we are moving through the process, one of the stages of loss will be an intense emotion of anger. The individual will direct their anger towards an object or person.
These emotions of anger can include resentment, guilt, or disappointment. It can be irrational. The individual wants to find answers for the loss and is seeking understanding. Sometimes, things just happen, and we may not ever have a good understanding of the cause.
During these feelings of helplessness and vulnerability, the individual will often try to regain control through a series of “If only” statements.
- If only I had done ____________
- If only I had been there
- If only I had tried to ___________
These statements or questions are an attempt to bargain. Secretly, we are searching for a bargaining chip to make a deal with source, our guides, our angels, etc. The individual is trying to avoid facing the pain of the loss. If the individual feels guilty, they will often use bargaining.
There are two types of depression associated with loss. The first type of depression is a reaction to the practical implications of the loss. There will be feelings of sadness and regret. It can appear from the worry of the financial implications of the loss. This type of depression can be eased with reassurance that things will work out.
The second type of depression is more subtle and private. It is our quiet preparation of separating ourselves from the loss. In these cases, we may just need to understand that we are not alone and that we are there for each other.
The final stage of acceptance. We begin to heal and move forward in our life. We may become withdrawn and calm. We will all cope differently to the loss in our life.
These stages give us some understanding of how we are feeling. Our community is experiencing loss and they are moving through all of these stages. The reality of this loss is that we will be back and operational as soon as humanly possible. It may take time, but we will be back in our beautiful center soon. We ask that we love and support each other during the time of separation. Keep in touch. We will continue to provide regular updates on our Facebook page and through our newsletter.
Thank you so much for the loving phone calls, emails, and messages. Please know that we are all missing you and we look forward to seeing you again soon.
Written by Vialet Rayne, Magical Creator of Discover Your Spiritual Gifts
Vialet has been on a healing path her whole life. She has been called a spiritual guardian that is strongly connected and highly intuitive. A teacher, coach, healer, and spiritual leader that dreams of a peaceful and harmonious world.
Her mission is to provide individuals with the tools and resources to discover their own healing powers within themselves so they may empower their own lives. Vialet's spiritual journey has provided her with everyday life rituals, experiences, and spiritual wisdom that allow her to overcome difficult situations and to create a life that she has always dreamed of.
Vialet wants everyone to discover their spiritual gifts in the tools and rituals that will improve their lives and the lives of their families. Find out more about her here.
Vialet Rayne of Discover Your Spiritual Gifts created an inclusive and welcoming spiritual center and metaphysical store in historical downtown Littleton, Colorado. Discover Your Spiritual Gifts is a haven for those seeking and teaching spirituality. This sacred sanctuary and loving community exist to heighten our individual and collective consciousness while unearthing and sharing each individual's inner gifts.
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