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Creating a Healthy Relationship with Yourself

The most important relationship in your life should be the relationship with yourself. Many times, an individual will expect that their joy and happiness should be created by the closest partner in their life. They expect their spouse to be responsible for their levels of joy and happiness. The truth is that you must take responsibility for your own joy and happiness.

What brings you joy? 

This is a BIG question. You must connect with your inner compass. What is your heart telling you? Have you ever experienced joy before? What happened in that moment? Take the time to think about the last time you smiled, you laughed, you sang, etc. The key to unlocking your own happiness is figuring out what actually makes you happy!


It is time to connect and love your inner child. Yes, you are all grown up. However, that does not mean that you should stop playing, laughing, dancing, and singing daily.

I am a BIG fan of Winnie Pooh. When I moved to Colorado in 1998, I designed my Powder Room in my new home with Winnie Pooh decor. I loved seeing everyone’s child-like reactions to my bathroom. I was a typical fan with several t-shirts of Winnie the Pooh. It was my connection with my inner child. I moved into a new relationship in 2001, he made a comment one day about my Disney shirts. He did not understand why a grown woman would wear these shirts. The message took deep roots in my subconscious. I donated all my Winnie the Pooh and Disney shirts. I have not been able to wear them since that day. I denied my inner child her joy.

What has impacted your inner child’s joy?

When you step into the energies of play, you bring in your own level of joy, you fill your energy tank, and you extend your life. Don’t allow others to take away your connection with your inner child.


When you live your life through your passion, you bring more joy into your life. Your passions may be aligned with your personal and/or professional passions. What lights up your smile from the inside? What gets you excited to wake up every day?

There may be insights to your passions from your childhood. What did you dream about doing? When I was a small child, I would pretend to be a teacher and/or a store clerk. I loved creating the space for the store and checking out the neighborhood kids. I would encourage them to fill their shopping baskets, so I could focus on checking out all their selections. When I reflect on those memories, I see how I have been guided in my life from my passions.

What are your passions?

When you live and work from a passionate place, you will find that everything becomes easier for you. Some individuals will follow the passions or expectations of others. These seeds may be planted deep in your subconsciousness at a young age. The seeds can take root and distract you from your true passions.


Some people do not allow themselves to dream. They lean into more of a logical approach to life and they set their intentions to control the world that they live in. This does not allow them to dream.

My daughter dreamed of being a schoolteacher when she was younger. She would always talk about her goal of being a teacher. One of her teachers told her that she should not become a teacher. She told her that she would not be paid as much as a teacher and that she should find another profession. I never heard her talk about that dream again. The seed that was planted that day moved her away from her childhood dream.

What were your dreams?

Take time to dream again. Find that place that allows your dreams to blossom and grow. There are no limits to your dreams. They allow each of us to have faith in ourselves and the Universe. Dreams become the magic that sparks joy within.


Develop a healthy relationship with yourself by bringing your inner child, your passions, and your dreams into your life. Make sure that you are not being influenced by other individuals steering you away from yourself. It is time to make yourself priority!


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Vialet has been on a healing path her whole life. She has been called a spiritual guardian that is strongly connected and highly intuitive. A teacher, coach, healer, and spiritual leader that dreams of a peaceful and harmonious world.

Her mission is to provide individuals with the tools and resources to discover their own healing powers within themselves so they may empower their own lives. Vialet’s spiritual journey has provided her with everyday life rituals, experiences, and spiritual wisdom that allow her to overcome difficult situations and to create a life that she has always dreamed of.

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